r/MensLib: The men's issues discussion has been sorely held back by counterproductive tribalism. We're building a new dialogue on the real issues . I can still feel in that area and I've noticed improvement in getting erections (I have had ED for years), but I can no longer orgasm by masturbation. It feels normal. My bf has been saying he supposedly has erectile dysfunction. I don't get it. If a man finds something sexy, he has a boner. Simple. If my bf isn't having a boner.