He fancies you and wants to turn you on. But he's also worried he might not get, or keep, his erection (particularly if he really likes you and/or if. I can get an erection but can't maintain it during intercourse. I have to learn to be less fixated on erectile ability and instead focus on pleasure. in situations that would be enjoyable for you both, even if sex does not occur. An erection problem occurs when a man cannot get or keep an erection that is firm enough for intercourse. You may not be able to get an.